How much do you give a fuck about something you really shouldn't? How about someone's perfect Instagram life; models flouncing around in diamonds and shoes that probably cost more than your rent, or constant holiday photos of #soznotsoz littered across the caption of smug smiles. Maybe it's the amount of abs on display, be it male or female. Or maybe it's nothing to do with Instagram at all, but to do with people that know you and the people you surround yourself with.
You get many different people in your life; they aren't all that great. There are those who are all smiles and emoji filled texts but in real life, they're eyes flickering up and down to size you up and to find a way to boost their ego through crushing your own. Maybe it's the way you've been brought up to think that it's okay for 'friends' to teach you like that. Or maybe it's the way everyone around you is confusing kindness with fake smiles and bitching instead of being honest. Guess what? If they aren't in to you or what you want to create out of your life, they're background noise. They're cars flying past your room at night when you're dead to the world, sound asleep in your warm bed. They are that irrelevant.
You can learn to not give a fuck by realising how much crap you're likely to be putting up with. You're a friend; not a punchbag or a therapist, not a doormat or a convenience, not someone to boost an ego that really doesn't need brought any higher. You're good as you are. If you keep giving a fuck about what other people are doing or saying, then you're going to be left with a gap hole that should be what makes you, you. Giving a fuck about someones opinion of you that isn't one you actually value, then it's dust on the ground. You lose time on yourself fussing and giving fucks about people or things who don't matter.
Understand that you deserve to surround yourself with people who bring you up, who challenge you and encourage you. Realise that what brings you down isn't something you have to associate yourself with. You could sit and complain until you're 45 years old as a bitter old woman or man, clutching a kale smoothie laced with vodka wondering where it all went, or you can learn and understand that what matters is how you think about yourself. Who gives a fuck if you don't go clubbing and who gives a fuck if you do? Who gives a fuck if you want to do something society deem 'lower' as a job, and who gives a fuck if people moan about you for wanting to get into a 'higher end' job? It's a job that you've got to do, so do what you love. Who gives a fuck what you're doing? Who gives a fuck how you act or dress or speak if it isn't harming or abusing someone? Who fucking cares if you have no clue what you want to do with your life, because one day you'll figure it out and when you do, you'll go for it with all you've got.
I could say 'look at all these celebs who don't give a fuck! Be like them!" but it isn't about other people who have accomplished not giving a fuck; its about learning to do so yourself. Don't get me wrong, theres one guy I like who really doesn't give a damn, but more on that later. Right now I want you to know I'm writing this for you reading this. I want you to know that any and every choice is your own. Everything you want, can or have done is for you and you alone. Distance yourself from things you don't give a fuck about and the people who give WAYYYY too many fucks about what you're doing. Cool they're interested, right what's next in your life? It's a blip, it's background noise, it's nothing. You have still got to keep going.
Give a fuck about the real things. Give more fucks about the good relationships you have, be it with family or friends. Give a fuck about creating a life you can be content with and give a fuck about helping someone out, even if it's doing the dishes or flipping 50p into a cup. Give a fuck about the planet, because god knows it's getting scary and you have to help out. Educate yourself about the world, about LGBT rights and women's rights and places in need. Get to know how to cook and how to sieve through the bullshit you get fed by media outlets. Get ahead of the game, refine your movement and your aspirations whatever the hell they are. Get better at saying 'fuck this' and getting out of bed, and get educated about mental illness and the stigma around them while you're at it. Give a fuck for the people who are busting their asses everyday doing something with their lives and give less of a fuck about the people laughing at them, who only have laughing at someone as a 'thing' they do in their lives. Give a fuck about building your own empire, being your idol and give in to what makes you tick.
Stop giving fucks about things you can't change or people who don't seem to change. Give up on things you don't like. Why are you doing something you hate? Stop it. What is it that makes you happy? Work on that, make it blossom into something you are proud of.
Stop giving fucks to things that waste your time.
Lou x
Labels: girl power, life, predicaments
